Sasha's Tea Room

Sometimes we fall down and can’t get back up

We’re hiding behind skin that’s too tough

How come we don’t say I love you enough

Till it’s too late, it’s not too late” lyrics from Live Like You’re Dying.. ..

I am often amused by my clients and the paradoxical lives theychoose to live. I use the word paradox because many of my clients come to melooking to know when they will be reunited with a loved one. They are alwayswistful when I can’t tell them a specific time and then when I can see areunion coming very soon, there are many times when the wistfulness turns todefensiveness. Admittedly there are times when the temptation to bang my headon my computer almost overtakes me when the very same person who has beendepressed and frustrated for what seems like an eternity to them, finally gets good news and is now ready to either give their former mate a tongue lashing ornot take their calls at all. WOW.

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While I am a huge proponent of communication in all relationships, I am at the same time, not a fan of the concept of “re-hashing”for the simple reason that we cannot undo what has been done since it residesin a past which no longer exists. If our reality is now, then we can only movefrom this point forward and it does not serve anyone to start out with adiscussion of past grievances. Hopefully, each person involved would have hadsufficient time to think about their role in the parting, while at the sametime understanding where the other person was coming from. Mistakes made in thepast do not need to be reviewed as a couple. Once the couple is back together,if some of the old “issues” arise, then they could be addressed at that time.However, if we let spirit take the lead, we would not expect the “old issues”because they were a part of the past and the assumption is that they no longerexist. What does exist is the person that is standing in front of you desiringthe same thing as you do; a new beginning .After all, it isn’t the “issues”that brings a couple back together, but rather all of the good memories and aspecial connection they feel. A spiritual person would choose to recognize thegrowth and the love or affection which brings the other person forward. Egowants to “re-hash”, spirit wants to “rejoice”.  

A reunion is a gift that each person gives to the other. Theyhonor the spirit within each other by seeking to transcend the ego difficultiesthat have existed. Each person chooses instead, to see the beauty of the soulbeneath. Love is indeed more powerful than fear.